My Anger Is Rising…

So recently some things have come to my attention. As I have been getting ready to add a new family member into my home (a dog to be specific) I have been researching constantly the best way to treat a dog, train a dog, feed a dog, etc. And I have decided to take the route of positive reinforcement and clicker based training for multiple reasons.

There are amazing benefits of using positive reinforcement with your dog, including:

  • A better bond with your dog. People who yell, hit, smack, or otherwise physically or emotionally intimidate their animal weaken their dog, and force them to submit. Instead of putting their ears back out of happiness, they do it out of fear and submission.
  • Longer lasting results. Sure, beating a dog to submit to your will might work, at least at first. The long term effects can include anxiety, distrust in other humans, aggression, and of course, rebellion.
  • It is science based. Studies show that positive reinforcement is a much better way to go.
  • Cesar Millan is a thing of the past. Almost everyone who owns a dog these days knows that Cesar’s techniques are ineffective, outdated, and plain abuse. He has used shock collars, hitting, submitting with force, and psychological intimidation to control the poor animals. Every owner on his show is just plain stupid and ignorant.

But since I have done so much research, it has come to my attention the neglect that so many dogs face in my area and around the country. Many dogs are neglected a simple WALK which they need for mental and physical stimulation. I see some trapped with nobody there in their yard for 14+ hours with dirty food and hot water (It’s been extremely hot right now where I live) and one of my neighbor’s dogs even forces his poor dogs to sleep outside, with only two beds for THREE dogs, in extreme weather, which has caused me to wake up at 3 AM from their anxious barks.

And that, is not okay.

That makes me furious. The fact that people are so ignorant and psychotic. Would you treat your child the same way? What did that dog do to deserve a life shunned in their yard?

Even as we speak at 9:55 PM their dog is still barking, and has been for the past 20 minutes straight. Not only is that a nuisance to the neighbors trying to sleep but just plain cruelty. I don’t care how damn busy you are, your dogs deserve attention and love, just like your kid.

And, this same neighbor literally uses a shock collar on his dogs to keep them from escaping, which they have escaped about 100 times over the past three years. AND HE WONDERS WHY THEY WERE ESCAPING. THEY WERE TRYING TO GET A BETTER LIFE. Imagine that you are secluded to a backyard the size of a small patio, in 100 degree weather, with absolutely nothing to do for 14+ hours (sometimes your owner doesn’t even come home) and if you even try to escape, you get electrocuted. That poor dog has even escaped twice already WITH THE SHOCK COLLAR ON. She was SO desperate that she just didn’t care about the pain. Now that makes me sick.

I have told multiple people about this neglect but all they say are “Oh, sorry.” Why does nobody seem to care as much as I do? How would you feel if that was you? How would you feel if that was your child?

And the owner has always made excuses, but knows fully well how he treats his animals. I haven’t even seen him pet them ONCE. He has even defended himself multiple times, saying how he’s owned pets for years and that he knows what he’s doing. I think it’s pretty obvious you don’t, dude.

In the end I guess that this is what is considered normal. Leaving your dogs outside all day with nothing to do, (DOGS ARE INTELLIGENT CREATURES, LIKE HUMANS, THAT REQUIRE DAILY MENTAL AND PHYSICAL EXERCISE AND IF NOT GIVEN CAN HAVE SERIOUS CONSEQUENCES.)

I’m not even going to get into how aggressive his dog is and how she has already bitten 3 people. That’s another story. I guess he just doesn’t care if he puts his neighbors at risk…

My main point is… animals need more rights. I am tired of seeing them chained, electrocuted, suffering, bored, barking constantly, and treated like they are toys that the owners can pick up whenever they like. I am tired.

I need more people who care, who can stand up, and who can petition to give more animals rights. Because they don’t deserve the lives that they leave. No animal, big or small, mean or nice, does.

Thank you so much for reading.

Shut Out That Negativity

So, I’d say I’m officially back from my internet break. I really missed blogging, and now that I’m back, I have so many fresh ideas to blog about.

After being offline for a while (no WordPress, Tumblr, Twitter, etc) I learned to do other things that I loved like photography/videography, cooking, meditating, enjoying nature, and being positive.

I noticed this only when I got back, but the internet can be so negative. YouTube is stuffed full with hate comments, everybody is complaining about the celebrity they hate, people are being murdered left and right on the news and I must say, the internet has been a really depressing place.

After learning this, I wanted to reach out to you. Make the internet a better place. Radiate positive vibes. Talk about things that make you smile. Encourage people to live in the moment and to enjoy life. Just go outside and breathe. There are so many things in life to love. This world that we live in is a beautiful thing. We humans just need to realize that. I know that humans will never get along, but can’t we just try? If you do, then you know that at least YOU aren’t the one contributing to hatred and negativity.

I’m proud of my sudden maturity these last few months, and some of the posts in the past that I have written are just so… negative. I won’t delete them, because they are memories and they show me growing as a person, but I will continue to grow. I hope you are with me on this. I hope we can work together.

So, I decided to write a post of a simple 10 things that make me happy. I highly encourage you to do the same, and if you read this, comment below (or even write a post) about 10 things that make you happy. I’d absolutely LOVE to read them. 🙂

 

  1. Nature. This one is a no brainer if you know me. When I’m in nature, I’m truly myself. I don’t feel the stress and negativity of modern city life. I feel serene and in the moment.
  2. Animals. Animals never cease to make me smile. They make me love the earth and all that it holds. They show me that life can be innocent and beautiful.
  3. Video games. They let me fill a role in a fantasy world where I can just escape. Whether I am kicking butt while being the intelligent Lara Croft or talking to Cortana in Halo, I am having fun.
  4. Anime. I have been an anime lover for only 2 years but it feels like a long time. When I watch anime I feel like I’m being immersed into a whole new culture. I learn a lot and laugh a lot as well.
  5. Sunny days. Now that it’s summer, I’m going to see a lot of these, which is so great.
  6. Chai tea. Simple, but magical.
  7. Cooking. Making things with my own two hands and then enjoying them is such a great feeling.
  8. YouTube. There are so many YouTubers that radiate so much positivity, and they make me smile.
  9. Hiking. Where I live, it is so beautiful and full of forests.
  10. Helping others. These aren’t in order, but helping others and seeing them thrive just makes me know my purpose in this world.

Thank you very much for reading. I can’t wait to read yours. 🙂

An Internet Break

So, I haven’t been as active as I usually am lately. I just haven’t been motivated to write on this blog, and I think it’s because I haven’t had a topic I’ve been really passionate about. I tend to write tons of blogposts if I’m really passionate about a certain thing.

My grades are also slipping, and going online a ton hasn’t exactly helped. Because of this, I kind of want to go on an internet cleanse. I will be gone for a week (or until my grades get better.) So I will not be as active. Don’t leave though! I will be back. Trust me. When I do get back, I always have tons of things to talk about.

I want to experience living in real life more. I want to take more walks, be more active, cook healthier meals, and meditate more. I even want to work on my story. Remember this?

I will be deleting my WordPress app (so that I’m not tempted), and the only other social media I have is Tumblr, and I don’t go on it much…

Here it is, if you’re interested: My weeaboo tumblr

It’s still a work in progress, so don’t judge it!

I hope to see you soon. Wish me luck with my grades. Ugh I need it.

Thanks for reading.

I want to live a fulfilling life

Throughout my teenage years, I struggled with social media.

It all started when I was 13 years old, and I just started to get into Facebook. (At the time, 2011-2012) it was very popular. I couldn’t stop checking it. I had to respond immediately to notifications, messages, and post frequently.

It was so entertaining to me, that I had better relationships through Facebook than ones in real life. After a while though, Facebook became less and less popular, and I now saw it as lame. So then I decided to get an Instagram. Another obsession began. I would constantly refresh the home page, post frequently, like photos, post, check, check, check. It was an endless cycle. I would spend a good 30-40 minutes every morning checking social media in bed.

Then came along Snapchat and Twitter. The same thing happened with those apps. At one point I would spend an hour every morning just checking these apps. And did I learn anything valuable? Sometimes. But what do you consider valuable? Edited selfies? Sunrise/sunset photos? Breakfast acai bowls? Okay, these are all pretty to look at, but am I gaining any detailed or valuable information from this?

Once I asked myself these questions, I realized the truth. I realized that I was wasting my life. Essena O’neill (although controversial because of some internet bullies by the names of Nina and Randa) showed me the way. She helped me realize that life shouldn’t be lived totally online. It is, of course, great to read blogposts and watch YouTube videos for fun, but what I do is try to make sure that I am gaining valuable information from it.

Now, I still have social media accounts like Tumblr, WordPress, and YouTube, but I try to limit my time so that I can live in real life.

And yes, I do play a ton of video games, and I’m working on that. I guess I don’t feel as bad because there are studies that (depending on the game) can actually be good for the brain. Just as long as there is problem solving and thinking involved. (My favorite types of games.)

I guess what I’m trying to say here is that you should give your mind a break once in a while. You will feel fresher and more alive. Ever since I started limiting my social media, I felt like I could finally breathe and not live like a social media-obsessed zombie.

I ask you to try this. See how it works for you. Limit your social media, narrow down who you follow to meaningful posts, and take eye breaks.

Trust me, I have terrible eyesight, and I guess this is karma for staring at screens for hours everyday for 4 years.

Thank you very much for reading.

Photo credit: here

Why I don’t agree with the Bechdel Test

If you don’t know what the Bechdel Test is, it was this “test” for movies and tv shows in which there must be two women in the movie/show, and they must have a conversation about anything besides men. If any movie/show does not follow these rules, they automatically fail.

At first I thought it was a great idea. Women would be more included, and not seen as just accessories to a movie. Later I started to realize it’s flaws.

This is actually just a short comic posted in 1985.

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Here’s a list of why I don’t agree…

  1. Tons of movies or shows with strong female leads are excluded from this test because one, there is only one main female character, or two, they have a love interest, but that isn’t the main point of the movie/show. Why is it so wrong to have a love story involved? Love is often a big part of somebody’s life, and to exclude it is dishonest, and frankly, unusual.
  2. It could be homophobic. The two women can’t talk about a MAN. This lady in the comic is kind of assuming that all women are straight, and attracted to males. Not okay with me.
  3. It’s not feminist at all. A lot of feminists follow this test, but as a feminist, I don’t agree with this test. It only has to do with gender, not feminism. The two women could pass the Bechdel test even if they were talking about being a prostitute, or a stripper. That doesn’t sound very feminist to me.
  4. I choose to not look at gender. When I meet people, I tend to get to know them as people, and not stereotype or assume things because of their gender. Assuming that a movie is bad just because they are all men is very sexist, if you think about it.
  5. Lastly, this “test” is just a few lines from a comic strip. I’m surprised that it’s even being taken that seriously. Many of my favorite shows are all male characters, or all female characters, and I won’t give it up just because some comic from the 80’s told me to.

In conclusion, I don’t believe that this comic should be taken too seriously. It’s kind of sexist, homophobic, and stereotypical. Instead, people should look at a movie for the people in general, and if the characters are good role models or not. Not if they are women or men.

Please leave your thoughts down below. If you agree with this test, maybe you could explain why. If you disagree, let me know your thoughts on that as well. I would love to hear feminist perspectives.

Thanks for reading.

I am a privileged woman

I was watching this TED talk about feminism, and the speaker said something that really made me realize that even though I’m a woman, I am still privileged.

He said that one time, while in his feminist group, he was overhearing a white woman and a black woman talk. The black woman asked the white woman, “When you look into the mirror, what do you see?” The white woman says, “I see a woman.” and the black woman says, “Well, see, this is where we are different. When I look into the mirror, I see a black woman. For me, race is visible.” and then the man overhearing the conversation said out loud, “Uh oh.” And the women asked him what was the matter. He said, “Well, when I look into the mirror, I see a person.”

Privilege is invisible to those who have it. When I thought about it, whenever I look into the mirror, I see a woman…

To clear things up, I am not fully white, (70%) but I still classify as a white American. This makes me privileged.

I want to say that even though I classify as a feminist, I am not just a feminist. I am an intersectional feminist. I care about white women, black women, Hispanic women, Asian women, transgender women, gay women, bi women, ALL WOMEN.

I find it a bit upsetting when feminists only seem to focus on the problems of white women. While this might not be obvious to them, it is to others. They subconsciously seem to forget about others.

For example, white women make more money than black women or Hispanic women. All women still make less money then men, but white women are still ahead of other minority women.

In the end, I wanted to say that I know that I’m privileged, but unlike some other privileged people, I will use my privilege to help fight for other minority groups, because they matter just as much as I do.

Thank you for reading.

Makeup is not the enemy

I made a post last year about why I don’t want to wear makeup anymore, and while I still mostly agree with it, I believe that there are some problems that need to be addressed.

First of all, I thought that “women need to be less insecure, and accept their flaws.” But later I realized that your face is not you. You can’t help being born with a certain face. I saw a comment once on a forum and the girl said that she wore makeup because her makeup suits her personality. Her face is not her.

I know this might sound kind of wrong, but I don’t blame women that are insecure about their faces. They are comparing their natural and bare face to perfectly made up celebrities. We can’t help what we look like naturally, so it’s okay to be insecure on your face…

The important thing is your personality. The only thing that can harm you is being insecure on you as a person, not your face.

It’s shallow and immature to feel insecure on your face when you can’t help it! Those crinkles when you smile? You can’t help that! The dark circles under your eyes? You can’t help that! There is no reason to feel insecure on that! It’s not YOU! You are what comes out of your mouth! You are your happiness, your feelings, your emotions!

Your face is just genetics! It has nothing to do with who you are as a person. It’s 2016. Women need to stop putting so much emphasis on insecurities. Wear two pounds of makeup, or no makeup. I don’t care. At the end of the day, it’s your personality that needs to shine.

I also wanted to say that I am SICK and TIRED of men stating that “Women are lying to them” and that “Women with makeup are fake.” First of all, we don’t wear makeup to impress you. I am shocked that in 2016, some men STILL believe that women are basically meant to live for them. WE DON’T WEAR MAKEUP FOR YOU. If we did things the way you wanted us to, we would be walking around in bikinis. Women are not things that are for you to view for pleasure.

I just wanted to clear that one up. 🙂

Thanks for reading.