An Internet Break

So, I haven’t been as active as I usually am lately. I just haven’t been motivated to write on this blog, and I think it’s because I haven’t had a topic I’ve been really passionate about. I tend to write tons of blogposts if I’m really passionate about a certain thing.

My grades are also slipping, and going online a ton hasn’t exactly helped. Because of this, I kind of want to go on an internet cleanse. I will be gone for a week (or until my grades get better.) So I will not be as active. Don’t leave though! I will be back. Trust me. When I do get back, I always have tons of things to talk about.

I want to experience living in real life more. I want to take more walks, be more active, cook healthier meals, and meditate more. I even want to work on my story. Remember this?

I will be deleting my WordPress app (so that I’m not tempted), and the only other social media I have is Tumblr, and I don’t go on it much…

Here it is, if you’re interested: My weeaboo tumblr

It’s still a work in progress, so don’t judge it!

I hope to see you soon. Wish me luck with my grades. Ugh I need it.

Thanks for reading.

I want to live a fulfilling life

Throughout my teenage years, I struggled with social media.

It all started when I was 13 years old, and I just started to get into Facebook. (At the time, 2011-2012) it was very popular. I couldn’t stop checking it. I had to respond immediately to notifications, messages, and post frequently.

It was so entertaining to me, that I had better relationships through Facebook than ones in real life. After a while though, Facebook became less and less popular, and I now saw it as lame. So then I decided to get an Instagram. Another obsession began. I would constantly refresh the home page, post frequently, like photos, post, check, check, check. It was an endless cycle. I would spend a good 30-40 minutes every morning checking social media in bed.

Then came along Snapchat and Twitter. The same thing happened with those apps. At one point I would spend an hour every morning just checking these apps. And did I learn anything valuable? Sometimes. But what do you consider valuable? Edited selfies? Sunrise/sunset photos? Breakfast acai bowls? Okay, these are all pretty to look at, but am I gaining any detailed or valuable information from this?

Once I asked myself these questions, I realized the truth. I realized that I was wasting my life. Essena O’neill (although controversial because of some internet bullies by the names of Nina and Randa) showed me the way. She helped me realize that life shouldn’t be lived totally online. It is, of course, great to read blogposts and watch YouTube videos for fun, but what I do is try to make sure that I am gaining valuable information from it.

Now, I still have social media accounts like Tumblr, WordPress, and YouTube, but I try to limit my time so that I can live in real life.

And yes, I do play a ton of video games, and I’m working on that. I guess I don’t feel as bad because there are studies that (depending on the game) can actually be good for the brain. Just as long as there is problem solving and thinking involved. (My favorite types of games.)

I guess what I’m trying to say here is that you should give your mind a break once in a while. You will feel fresher and more alive. Ever since I started limiting my social media, I felt like I could finally breathe and not live like a social media-obsessed zombie.

I ask you to try this. See how it works for you. Limit your social media, narrow down who you follow to meaningful posts, and take eye breaks.

Trust me, I have terrible eyesight, and I guess this is karma for staring at screens for hours everyday for 4 years.

Thank you very much for reading.

Photo credit: here

Why I don’t agree with the Bechdel Test

If you don’t know what the Bechdel Test is, it was this “test” for movies and tv shows in which there must be two women in the movie/show, and they must have a conversation about anything besides men. If any movie/show does not follow these rules, they automatically fail.

At first I thought it was a great idea. Women would be more included, and not seen as just accessories to a movie. Later I started to realize it’s flaws.

This is actually just a short comic posted in 1985.

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Here’s a list of why I don’t agree…

  1. Tons of movies or shows with strong female leads are excluded from this test because one, there is only one main female character, or two, they have a love interest, but that isn’t the main point of the movie/show. Why is it so wrong to have a love story involved? Love is often a big part of somebody’s life, and to exclude it is dishonest, and frankly, unusual.
  2. It could be homophobic. The two women can’t talk about a MAN. This lady in the comic is kind of assuming that all women are straight, and attracted to males. Not okay with me.
  3. It’s not feminist at all. A lot of feminists follow this test, but as a feminist, I don’t agree with this test. It only has to do with gender, not feminism. The two women could pass the Bechdel test even if they were talking about being a prostitute, or a stripper. That doesn’t sound very feminist to me.
  4. I choose to not look at gender. When I meet people, I tend to get to know them as people, and not stereotype or assume things because of their gender. Assuming that a movie is bad just because they are all men is very sexist, if you think about it.
  5. Lastly, this “test” is just a few lines from a comic strip. I’m surprised that it’s even being taken that seriously. Many of my favorite shows are all male characters, or all female characters, and I won’t give it up just because some comic from the 80’s told me to.

In conclusion, I don’t believe that this comic should be taken too seriously. It’s kind of sexist, homophobic, and stereotypical. Instead, people should look at a movie for the people in general, and if the characters are good role models or not. Not if they are women or men.

Please leave your thoughts down below. If you agree with this test, maybe you could explain why. If you disagree, let me know your thoughts on that as well. I would love to hear feminist perspectives.

Thanks for reading.

Why I Love Adventure Time So Much

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Adventure time is a show about a boy named Finn the Human and his magical best friend Jake the Dog. They go on adventures, fight monsters, and have fun.

Sounds simple, right? Wrong.

Adventure time seems pretty and colorful on the surface, but underneath there are dark and depressing tones. It is also very weird. It reminds many people of an anime because of its strange and colorful feelings.

Adventure Time is one of my favorite shows. I have been watching it for about 2-3 years now, and I’ve watched all of the seasons (season 1-6) about 2-3 times. I know this show quite well.

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Even though it’s on Cartoon Network, (a children’s cartoon channel) I wouldn’t say it’s exactly a child’s show. Some scenes are just so scary and/or creepy that I just can’t imagine children watching it.

But the strange thing is… that’s why I love it. I am a fan of creepy and/or weird things, and I don’t know.. If I could describe myself by naming a show… I would say Adventure Time.

It’s also really funny.. I mean, who doesn’t love LSP?

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When LSP runs away from home because her parents are “horrible idiots!”

Here are 5 reasons why I love Adventure Time.

  1. All of the characters have secrets and mysterious backgrounds. From not knowing who PB’s parents are or where she actually came from, to wondering why Jake used to be a burglar in a gang, this show is just so creative. That’s probably how the producers are able with coming up with so many episodes. It’s basically endless. Just search Adventure Time theories and you will get entire blogs based on the crazy and seemingly real theories.
  2. It’s funny. From LSP being sassy, to Jake shape shifting into a snail, the jokes and hilarious characters are so lovable. jake as a snail.gif
  3. There are endless theories. Adventure Time is actually quite complicated. Almost like a kid’s version of Game of Thrones or something. There are so many backstories, so many characters, and so much unknown history of what the Land of Ooo actually is. I absolutely love shows like this, because then I never get bored.
  4. It’s weird. I am a big anime fan, and so I’ve seen my fair share of weird things. Adventure Time is one of those weird things. It’s awesome.
  5. It has feminist characters. Princess Bubblegum, despite her “girly” appearance and adorable voice, is most likely the smartest person in Ooo. She is obsessed with science, and rules over the entire Candy Kingdom. Whenever Finn needs help, he always knows to go to PB. Another feminist character worth mentioning is Marceline the Vampire Queen. She is brave, tough, a little scary at times, and an all around amazing character. She is one of my favorites. She is like that cool rocker chick you secretly admire. She is also incredibly strong, and possesses very strong magical powers. pb and marceline.png

 

This show makes my heart melt. I love this show so much, and it always makes me feel so happy. You should definitely give this show a try if you haven’t watched it before. Don’t be scared off because you think it’s a kid’s show. It’s so much more than that.

Thanks for reading.

I am a privileged woman

I was watching this TED talk about feminism, and the speaker said something that really made me realize that even though I’m a woman, I am still privileged.

He said that one time, while in his feminist group, he was overhearing a white woman and a black woman talk. The black woman asked the white woman, “When you look into the mirror, what do you see?” The white woman says, “I see a woman.” and the black woman says, “Well, see, this is where we are different. When I look into the mirror, I see a black woman. For me, race is visible.” and then the man overhearing the conversation said out loud, “Uh oh.” And the women asked him what was the matter. He said, “Well, when I look into the mirror, I see a person.”

Privilege is invisible to those who have it. When I thought about it, whenever I look into the mirror, I see a woman…

To clear things up, I am not fully white, (70%) but I still classify as a white American. This makes me privileged.

I want to say that even though I classify as a feminist, I am not just a feminist. I am an intersectional feminist. I care about white women, black women, Hispanic women, Asian women, transgender women, gay women, bi women, ALL WOMEN.

I find it a bit upsetting when feminists only seem to focus on the problems of white women. While this might not be obvious to them, it is to others. They subconsciously seem to forget about others.

For example, white women make more money than black women or Hispanic women. All women still make less money then men, but white women are still ahead of other minority women.

In the end, I wanted to say that I know that I’m privileged, but unlike some other privileged people, I will use my privilege to help fight for other minority groups, because they matter just as much as I do.

Thank you for reading.

Makeup is not the enemy

I made a post last year about why I don’t want to wear makeup anymore, and while I still mostly agree with it, I believe that there are some problems that need to be addressed.

First of all, I thought that “women need to be less insecure, and accept their flaws.” But later I realized that your face is not you. You can’t help being born with a certain face. I saw a comment once on a forum and the girl said that she wore makeup because her makeup suits her personality. Her face is not her.

I know this might sound kind of wrong, but I don’t blame women that are insecure about their faces. They are comparing their natural and bare face to perfectly made up celebrities. We can’t help what we look like naturally, so it’s okay to be insecure on your face…

The important thing is your personality. The only thing that can harm you is being insecure on you as a person, not your face.

It’s shallow and immature to feel insecure on your face when you can’t help it! Those crinkles when you smile? You can’t help that! The dark circles under your eyes? You can’t help that! There is no reason to feel insecure on that! It’s not YOU! You are what comes out of your mouth! You are your happiness, your feelings, your emotions!

Your face is just genetics! It has nothing to do with who you are as a person. It’s 2016. Women need to stop putting so much emphasis on insecurities. Wear two pounds of makeup, or no makeup. I don’t care. At the end of the day, it’s your personality that needs to shine.

I also wanted to say that I am SICK and TIRED of men stating that “Women are lying to them” and that “Women with makeup are fake.” First of all, we don’t wear makeup to impress you. I am shocked that in 2016, some men STILL believe that women are basically meant to live for them. WE DON’T WEAR MAKEUP FOR YOU. If we did things the way you wanted us to, we would be walking around in bikinis. Women are not things that are for you to view for pleasure.

I just wanted to clear that one up. 🙂

Thanks for reading.