Marriage is a beautiful thing to some, and a restriction to others. First, I’d like to establish what marriage is. Well, originally, marriage was for family ties, such as a princess of one family marrying a prince of another family, so that their families secured a bond. Marriage in ancient times actually meant that the woman was property of the man, and that she was a gift to him. She was seen as an object, with her sole purpose being to cook, clean, be a slave, and birth children. Many marriages were actually dissolved if the woman was infertile.
Obviously this is not the case today, but so little people realize that some sexist traditions are still alive today.
Did you know that the father traditionally walked the bride down the aisle because he was “giving her away” to the husband? It literally symbolized that she was the property of the father, but now she’s property of her husband, thus the changing of last names. Many wives actually write Mrs. (husband’s full name) on documents, like she was just the property of the husband. I’m aware that they don’t mean it that way, but it is incredibly sexist.
Did you know that the veil symbolizes the bride’s virginity, and that when the father lifts the veil, he is actually giving the husband permission to lose the bride’s virginity? That’s also why the wedding dress is white. White symbolizes purity, and also a woman’s virginity.
So what are my views on this? Well, for one thing, either both of my parents will walk me down the aisle, not because they are giving me away, but because to me, it will be a sign of respect and love towards my new husband, or I will walk myself down the aisle, because I own myself.
I will not wear a veil, my dress will probably not be white, and my wedding will most likely not be in a church, simply because I’m not religious.
Since I am a feminist, I will never be a housewife. I have my own reasons why housewives are damaging to the women, but that could be another post. Basically though, housewives keep the tradition alive that says to cook, clean, care for the kids, and serve the husband. Little do people realize that us women have a lot more potential than that. You do not need to rely on anyone.
If both my husband and I had good jobs, but he made more money, and I wanted kids, I would still never give up my job. Why, you may ask? I will admit this topic is pretty controversial, especially when housewives get offended, but from my own personal experiences and what I have seen, these women are so depressed, bored, and not living life to it’s fullest potential. Of course housewives could be content and happy, but you need to remember that back then in America, the media brainwashed women into thinking that in order to be happy, you had to have a husband, children, and be a housewife. Housewives also usually do all of the housework, and even if the husband does his fair share, the wife usually still does more (cooking, caring, and cleaning wise) This is degrading to women in my opinion (note that I say my opinion) and I hope I don’t cause offense to anyone if they disagree. I want you to look at the other side, and what housewives actually are.
My future husband and I will be equal, there is no “head of the house,” and if I choose to have kids in the future (although I have no idea why I would want to,) I will make sure that my husband and I both contribute to our fair share of chores and caring.
I would also like to point out that marriage is not my goal in life. I believe that people all have a purpose in life, but marriage (IMO) is never one of them. I feel sad when people are so desperate to find a partner that they lose the goodness of what life is really about. There is more to life than marriage. I hope more people will realize that. To me, my purpose in life is to speak for the animals, (hence why I’m an animal rights activist,) and to help others in need. Now, you may not have the same purpose as me, but I know for a fact that marriage is not one of them.
If you were searching for a purpose, listen now. You, reader, are worth more than a servant in marriage (be you male or female) and I am here to tell you that you have so much potential. Never give up, always keep working hard, and someday you might live your dream. Don’t just settle on marriage and kids, you are worth more than that!
Thanks for reading.